If there is to be any peace,
it will come through being,
not having.
~Henry Miller
February 24, 2013
If There Is To Be Any Peace
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February 16, 2013
Zen Tale: The Master’s 3 Sons
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In TanDao, we use this famous zen tale as a metaphor for long and winding path to martial arts mastery:
The Master’s Three Sons
Once upon a time two old kung fu masters were in a teahouse. One master asked, “How are your three sons progressing with their martial arts?”
“Let’s test them,” said the host. He took a heavy vase and placed it over a door so when opened the vase would fall. He called his youngest son, a strong youth who demonstrated powerful punches and kicks with fierce shouts.
“Pay your respects,” his father said. His son strutted over and shoved the door open. The vase crashed on his head but when it hit the floor he shattered it with a punch.
“Your boy is powerful,” said the guest. “He is young, one day he may understand power,” said the host, placing another vase over the door. He called his middle son, a tall youth who performed graceful and ferocious animal movements. When the youth pushed open the door he dodged and caught the vase as it fell. He bowed.
“Your second son has power and control,” complimented the visitor. “If he perseveres he may one day achieve true power.” the host said, putting up another vase. He called his eldest son.
After doing a slow moving meditation form, the son calmly walked towards the door. Noticing the vase, he reached up and took it down. He held it out while bowing, “Pleased to meet you, sir.”
“This is my number one son,” his father smiled. The visitor said, “Indeed, he is on his way to becoming a master”
Three Stages of Mastery: Technical. Strategic. Intuitive.
The sons correspond to three different stages: technical (youngest son), strategic (middle son) and intuitive (eldest son). Each stage is a different mindset and focuses on a particular way of problem solving (the falling vase). The three sons express three alternative options reflecting their stage of development: the youngest son aggressively confronts the problem, the middle son strategically defuses the problem and the eldest, avoids the problem through mindful awareness.
Think about it.
Lawrence Tan
February 12, 2013
Year of the Snake
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Today begins a new cycle in the lunar New Year calendar…the Year of the Snake.
Looking back: The dragon, an ancient Chinese symbol of nature’s primal power, controls winds, water and weather unleashed destruction with Hurricane Sandy and ended the year with the blizzard of 2013. The Year of the Dragon 2012 was a helluva roller coaster ride for the world economically and geo politically with challenging reverberations in everyone’s private lives. Whew!
In the East and in many native traditions, the snake, which sheds it’s skin, is a symbol of spiritual transformation and rebirth. With all the challenges we face these days, many of us need to reassess and revitalize ourselves. Let this be a year of renewal for all.
Happy New Year from your friends at TanDao,
Lawrence and Toni Tan
July 17, 2012
Healing The Sacred Divide
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In her new book, Healing The Sacred Divide, Making Peace with Ourselves, Each Other, and the World, Dr Jean Raffa takes us deep into the place where two circles overlap, an ancient symbol of healing and wholeness. This is the space where we intersect, you and me, your ego and my ego, your masculine, my feminine, your country and my country, your religion and my religion. It is the mandorla, an almond shaped contact point where the overlap has the potential to expand. The the greater it grows, the smaller the divide. Closing the gap is the opening of doors.